*She beat me at Scrabble six months before she died. They are arguing diminished capacity.*

My Aunt Pauline had a way of making decisions that made other people very uncomfortable, and she did not appear to care about that at all, which is probably why I liked her so much.

She died in January of 2024. She was eighty-seven years old. She had three adult children, a paid-off house, a savings account, and nineteen years of Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturday mornings given to the Maplewood Animal Rescue in the town where she had lived for most of her adult life.

She left all of it : the house, the savings, everything : to Maplewood.

Her three children, Derek, Sandra, and Renee, are contesting the will.

I am not. And I want to tell you why.

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Pauline married my Uncle Raymond in 1961. They had three children over seven years and they were married for forty-eight years, which is a thing Pauline was proud of even when, from what I understood, the marriage was not always easy. Raymond passed in 2009.

After that, the kids scattered. That is not a criticism : that is life. Derek is in Atlanta. Sandra moved to Phoenix years ago. Renee is forty-five minutes from where Pauline lived, and to Renee’s credit she did show up, though by my count it was holiday dinners and the occasional Sunday, maybe eight visits a year.

What filled the rest of Pauline’s life was the cats.

She started volunteering at Maplewood in 2005, four years before Raymond died. She said she walked past their table at a church fair and one of the cats bit her finger through the cage bars and she went back the next week to check on it. That is the kind of woman she was.

By the time I knew her well : really well, as an adult who chose to spend time with her : the rescue was the organizing fact of her life. She fostered cats between adoptions. She drove to adoption events on Saturday mornings and set up the table and talked to strangers about specific cats with the precision of a matchmaker. She knew which cat needed a quiet house and which one would do well with kids and which one had been there long enough that it had started to give up, and those were the ones she took home.

She called them her “little people.”

“Don’t say that in front of your cousins,” she told me once. “They think it’s morbid.”

“I don’t think it’s morbid,” I said.

“I know,” she said. “That’s why I’m telling you.”

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Pauline updated her will in the summer of 2021. She was eighty-four years old. She had, at that point, been volunteering with Maplewood for sixteen years. Her attorney : she had used the same attorney for thirty years : prepared the document. It was witnessed by two people. It was notarized. It was filed. There is nothing procedurally wrong with it.

Her children did not know about it until she died.

Derek called me about a week after the funeral. I had driven three hours to attend, and I had sat near the back because the front pews were for immediate family and I did not want to create any issue.

“You know she left everything to the cats,” Derek said.

I said I had heard.

“We’re contesting it,” he said. “Are you with us or not?”

I thought about it for about two seconds. I thought about Pauline at the Scrabble board last July, placing “quixotic” on a triple word score and then looking at me over her glasses and saying “Your turn, sweetheart” with the expression of a woman who had already won and was just being polite about it.

“I’m not contesting it, Derek,” I said. “I’m sorry.”

He hung up.

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The argument Derek and Sandra are making is diminished capacity. They have hired an attorney who is making the case that Pauline, in her later years, was not mentally competent to make sound financial decisions.

I want to be careful here, because I do not know everything that happened in that house, and I was not there every day.

What I know is what I saw. I visited Pauline six times in the last two years of her life, sometimes just for a day, once for a long weekend. Every time, she was sharp. She was opinionated. She remembered things I had told her years ago. She asked about my job and my kids with specific follow-up questions. She beat me at Scrabble. She had opinions about what was happening in the news. She told me a story about a disagreement she’d had with the rescue’s new director in 2023, a disagreement that involved a spreadsheet she had made to track intake patterns.

This is not a woman who did not know what she was signing.

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I have thought a lot about what Pauline was saying with that will.

She was not punishing her children. I do not believe that. I think she was doing something harder than that: she was telling the truth about her life. The truth about who showed up and who didn’t, and I do not mean that only as a criticism of her kids, because the rescue showed up too. Those people showed up for nineteen years. They knew her name. They called her when a cat she had fostered finally got adopted. They brought her a cake when she hit her fifteenth year with them. They were a community. They were consistent.

Consistency is love, made practical.

That is what Pauline was saying. That is what the will says, if you read it right.

Her children got forty-plus years of a mother who showed up. The rescue got nineteen years of Pauline at her most herself, at her most free, at her most completely chosen. She decided they had earned what she had left.

I think she was right.

Derek can be furious. That is his right. But the will is legal. It was her house. It was her money. It was her nineteen years of Tuesdays and Thursdays and Saturday mornings.

You do not get to be angry that someone chose to give away what they built. You only get to be sad that you were not the one they chose.